While the rumored statistic that 50 percent of marriages in the U.S. end in divorce is far from true, ask a divorcee in the Sandy area if it is possible to fall out of love. According to Shaunti Feldhahn, a bestselling author and social researcher, the real divorce rate in America is probably somewhere between 20 and 30 percent. Does this mean that between 20 and 30 percent of couples in Sandy and the rest of America fall out of love? If so, how does this happen? How can a couple quickly go from being madly in love, to needing marriage therapy.
According to ExaminedExistence.com, falling in love is a complicated chemical process that can be explained scientifically. There are three stages associated with falling in love, the first being lust. Estrogen and testosterone are responsible for the initial attraction.
Then comes attraction. ExaminedExistence.com describes this as, “an impatience for attracting someone” that leads us to constantly think about someone. The next stage is attachment, when a couple begins to create lasting bonds and the desire to have children, far from the thought of marriage therapy.
The National Center for Biotechnology Information makes the comparison between falling in love to an addiction, finding that both processes are incredibly similar. Much like a drug or behavioral addict, people love because of the reward of loving that person.
Of course, ideal rewards can vary from person to person. What happens when one or both people in a relationship don’t receive enough of that reward or demand more than the other can provide?
This is where falling out of love comes into play. It is also where marriage therapy is necessary. There is no way around the fact that humans are driven by gratification. When there is no longer a benefit to an action or a relationship, humans tend to stop pursuing that channel of gratification. Instead, they will seek other ways to achieve what they desire from a relationship.
When a person’s chemicals are going wild for another, it is hard to imagine not loving that person. But, like the chemical reaction that is love, falling out of love is also a chemical process. It is best to recognize this process if it does happen.
If you feel that your marriage is slowly disintegrating, or that you and your partner may be falling out of love, it is important that you contact a Sandy area marriage therapy center right away. If not for you then for your family.
Ian Carry is a relationship writer reporter for Fusion 360, an SEO and content marketing agency. Information provided by Swinton Counseling. Follow on Twitter
According to ExaminedExistence.com, falling in love is a complicated chemical process that can be explained scientifically. There are three stages associated with falling in love, the first being lust. Estrogen and testosterone are responsible for the initial attraction.
Then comes attraction. ExaminedExistence.com describes this as, “an impatience for attracting someone” that leads us to constantly think about someone. The next stage is attachment, when a couple begins to create lasting bonds and the desire to have children, far from the thought of marriage therapy.
The National Center for Biotechnology Information makes the comparison between falling in love to an addiction, finding that both processes are incredibly similar. Much like a drug or behavioral addict, people love because of the reward of loving that person.
Of course, ideal rewards can vary from person to person. What happens when one or both people in a relationship don’t receive enough of that reward or demand more than the other can provide?
This is where falling out of love comes into play. It is also where marriage therapy is necessary. There is no way around the fact that humans are driven by gratification. When there is no longer a benefit to an action or a relationship, humans tend to stop pursuing that channel of gratification. Instead, they will seek other ways to achieve what they desire from a relationship.
When a person’s chemicals are going wild for another, it is hard to imagine not loving that person. But, like the chemical reaction that is love, falling out of love is also a chemical process. It is best to recognize this process if it does happen.
If you feel that your marriage is slowly disintegrating, or that you and your partner may be falling out of love, it is important that you contact a Sandy area marriage therapy center right away. If not for you then for your family.
Ian Carry is a relationship writer reporter for Fusion 360, an SEO and content marketing agency. Information provided by Swinton Counseling. Follow on Twitter